Cary Heffner

Dad I am always late on Father's Day heeee but I wanted to tell you I love you and I miss you. I can't believe I don't have you any more to call me kido and tell me that everything's going to be ok. I miss playing guitar hero with you and riding on the back of your bike. Now I ride with Corey but it's not the same he just does not go faster and I would always say faster dad and we were off. I can't wait to see you again it is hard without you and well I don't know who is going to walk caley and I down the aisle when we get married. I still give mom cheek pats just to piss her off just for you old man. I love you dad and wish you were still here . Love Nichole

Cary, my love. You are my everything. I miss you very much and often find myself looking over to see you smiling at me, but your chair is empty. I will always treasure the time that we shared together. Even when we were mad at each other we still could laugh and hug. I remember the first time I got on your bike and started to take our first ride together and as we were going around a corner I turned to wave at Dee Dee who was behind us and almost knocked us both off the bike. Did you get upset? Probably, but you did not let me see it. You just pulled over and said please do not do that Sandy it is not safe and I don't want to see you hurt. Then you adopted my daughter Nichole a.k.a. Chole (a Cary nickname) because you said well she needs a dad and as long as I am with you let me be her dad. So I did and it turns out it was a great idea as you managed to always be there for her and me. Our other great accomplishment in life was our daughter Caley or as you called her Frag because she was a fragment of us. The second she was born I saw the beautiful brown eyes that she got from you that seemed to look deep into your soul. We went on road trips and hung out with friends, which was inevitable because we could never go anywhere where you did not know someone. People flocked to you. Without even knowing you they would walk up to you and tell you their whole life story. How many neighbors did you get to come over to our house all the time? I think most of them. You were always reminding me that no matter where a person came from or how rich or poor someone was did not matter as they were just people trying to make the best of things and you felt it was your destiny to make others happy. You succeeded. Your friendly kind nature made everyone think they were your best friend. You treated me like a queen while all the while reminding me your favorite motto. "Beggar's on foot and princess and queens who ride, in skull and bone land saunter side by side." No matter someones past when we die, suddenly we are all the same so why not be a beautiful person now while we are alive and celebrate others. I did not always agree with you on this and I am not sure I still do because I do not feel like you are like others who have passed. You are one of a kind Mr. Heffner and I will cherish every precious memory I have had with you. I will always love you. Ohenia. (forever) Love Sandy

My beautiful son. Cary was truly a good person. He was happy, kindhearted, caring, and compassionate. He was always doing for others. Even strangers were drawn to him. He made new acquaintances and friends everywhere he went. His family was everything to him. He was very intelligent. Time and again I found myself in awe of his knowledge on so may different subjects. At the age of 12 when we lived in New Mexico, he tutored a neighbor of ours, a young german boy of about the age of seven and did a great job. In the last year or two we spent a lot of time together and I was so proud of him, who he was, and loved every moment I had with him. We took Broccoli and Mello for walks which was great for all four of us. We went shopping which was fun for me and he pretended he was having a good time, when in reality just the word "mall" made him want to run in the other direction. However he did get even when it was his turn to pick a movie. We called them 'Cary movies' and boy were they bad. He was totally enthralled and we were counting the minutes for it to be over. We were so comfortable with each other and really, really loved our time together. We could and did talk about any and everything. Cary was not only my beautiful son, he was also my very, very best and closest friend. I will treasure the time we had together for the rest of my life. I miss and love him with my whole being. Love Mom

Sandy,Nichole, and Caley, We love you guy's and know that Chains is watching over you with gram's at his side. Wish we could have been there to hug you guy's. Just know we love you all and will see you soon. You all did an awesome job of honoring him and his memory. I can see him laughing and smiling on use all. Love you, Aunt Deb And Uncle Jim the godfather

Chains, you will forever be our favorite road trip buddy. Nothin but awesome memories of ridin,laughin,d rinkin,eatin, and not much sleepin. This world will not be the same without you in it to make us laugh. Love you nephew. Aunt Deb and Uncle Jim. Ride free buddy.